Friday, November 13, 2009
Ye baat dhayan rakhne waali hai ki Saana Samarth ke bich pyar shaadi ke 3 saal baad hua...vo kin haalato.n me hua ye sab aap logo ke aage hai...shayad Saana ab bilkul akeli, tanha aur zindagi ki thokro aur kismat ki maar khaate khaate ab bahut kamzor ho chuki thi...ha.n ye sach hai ki aaj Saana ko bhi ek jabardast Mansik sahare ki jaroorat thi...ye baat alag thi ki vo pyar to chahti thi..vo kandho ka sahara to chahti thi...vo aisa daman to chahti thi jo use chhupa sake...vo ye to chahti thi ki uske jakhmo ki bhi ab koi dava kare...vo ye bhi chahti thi ki...ab usko koi aisa insaan mile jo apne pyar bhare hatho k sparsh se uske aansuo ko poonch de..lekin ye bhi sach hai ki vo aisa aadmi nahi chahti thi jo fir se ussae physical love ki baat kare...
anyways..Samarth kabhi uska fayda nahi uthaya...ye baat alag thi ki dheere dheere Saana us-se pyar karne lagi...aur tahe dil se usko chahne lagi....kai baar Saana aur Samarth milte...baate karte...milan hota...Saana us-se her baar milne per aisa hi lagta jaise uski pyasi aatma ko...jalti rait per do boond paani ki mil gai ho....Saana khush rehne lagi....lekin fir bhi ek taraf se man use kachotTa ki Saana to samaj se hatkar hai...ye galat kadam hai...ye tera tere pati k liye dokha hai...teri zimmevariyo se hatkar galat baat hai...tujhe aisa nahi karna chahiye...kai baar Saana in vicharo me doob kar khud hi ki nigaho me girne lagti....kai baar ye feelings Samarth saath bhi share karti...lekin Samarth bhi kehta...ki pyar koi soch samajh kar nahi ho paata...hamara dil jis baat me khush rehna chahta hai...ham na chah kar bhi vahi kaam karte hai...ab tum aur main dono hi dil k haatho mazboor hai...to kya kare...
Mujhe nahi lagta ki pyar bina kisi karan se bhi ho jata ho...aisi to main koi hero bhi nahi hu....tum se personality main bhi Kam nazar aata hu...fir kya vajeh hai...Saana Muskuraa Deti..aur kehti ye sab sach hai...lekin bas tum mujhe acchhe lagte ho...tumara man bahut saaf hai...ye baat mujhe acchhi lagti hai..aur tum sunder to ho hi...isme koi do rai nahi...
Samarth ko uski baate samajh na aati...aur vo chup ho jaata...bina satisfied reply paye..
Saana aur Samarth ki hamesha ek baat ko leker bahut larai ho jati kabhi kabhi...Saana ki aadat thi ki vo sabse office me has-has kar baat karti thi..aur sabse majak kar leti thi...is vajeh se kai log Saana ko galat kehne se bhi baaz na aate...aur peeche se shayad uska mazak bhi urate...Samarth aadmi tha...use pata tha ki office k logo ki mentality kaisi hai aur vo kaise gande majak banate hai...is liye vo hamesha Saana se yahi shikayat karta ki tum logo se has-has kar baat kyu karti ho...kyu unse faaltu bolti rehti ho...larki ho...aur ek larki ban kar raha karo...vo Saana ko kisi k saath baat bhi karte dekh leta to gusse me aa jaata...shayad Samarth Saana k case me bahut hi posessive ho gaya tha..aur Saana thi ki uske dil ki halat samajhti nahi thi..uski daat kha kar rone baith jaati aur kehti ki tum to chahte ho ki main office me goongi hoker baithi raho...kisi se baat na karu...sirf tumse baat karu...jab tum meeting chale jaate ho 3-4 ghante baad aate ho to kya main diwaro se sir maarti rahu...ek to ghar me bhi chup raho...aur yaha aaker tumara aadesh ki kisi se baat mat karo...is tareh her 2-4 din baad dono ki larai ho jati..Saana roti...fir khud hi shant ho jati...
Saana hamesha apnae ghar ki baaten samarth se share kerti. wo hamesha bolti ki mujhe koi ghar main samajhta hi nahi, Uskae pati ussae payar nahi kerte jitna samarth kerta hai aur wo us sae kerti hai. Samarth agar kuch samjhanae ki kosis kerta phir Saana usae samajhnae lagti bolti aap mujhe kabhi samajh nahi paaogee....phir saamarth ke paas koi option nahi rahtaa....
In Dino Samarth kuch paresaan chal raha hai... Iskaa kaaran Saayad samarth ko bhi nahi maalum par wo kabhi kabhi jab batein kerta hai to uski frustration baaton se dikhti hai... saayad wo apne ghar ki koi jameen jaayadaad kaa tention hai usae...aur kabhi kabhi wo kuch court kachhari ki bhi baatein kerta hai... Samarth aajkal bahut paresaan lag raha hai...
Ek din Samarth kuch paresaani mai tha achanak Saana us ke paas aai aur boli, aap mujhse ghanto baate nahi kerte ho aur mai bore hote rahti hoon... Aapko koi chintaa hi nahi hoti. Samarth usae samjhane ki kosis kerta to Saana bolti ki mere liye aapke paas time nahi hai jab mai nahi rahti to dusre ladkiyon kae saath baaten kerta aapko atcha lagta hai....
Saayad Saana ko Shakkk ho raha tha ki Samarth kisi dusree kae chakaar mai to nahi hai....Kabhi kabhi wo direct bhi puch leti....Us time Samarth ko ye ehsaas hota ki mai karu bhi to kya kru .. wo kaisae samjhaye Saana ko ki wo usae hamesha galat samajhti hai..
Samarth hamesha Saana ko guide kerta ki jindagi main wo kis tarah se safaltaa ko chu sakaegii...Par Saana is baat ko samajhne ko taiyaar nahi hoti...usae bas Samarth se lagaao tha wo hamesha bolti mujhe jaha jaana hai aapke saath jaaungii... wo saayad hakikaat ko bhulll rahi thi ....
KYA SAMARTH AGLE KUCH MAHINE MAIN Saana KO USKI HAKIKAT SE MILA PAAYEGAA...? KYA Saana SAMARTH KO SAMAJH PAAYEGIII? KYA Saana KO APNE GHAR SE PYARA KOI NAHI LAGEGAA? AGAR AISA HUA TO SAMARTH KAA KYA HOGAA.....? KAHI ISKAE PICHE KOI RAAZ TO NAHI...? Readers jaroor in baato ka jawab de...
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Thursday, February 26, 2009
1. Drink the right water through the firehose
Don't be like this little kid who didn't see what was coming. Large companies are complex beasts and in the first few weeks the sheer amount of information you think you need to absorb and the often critical decisions you need to make can easily overwhelm you. A good manager should help you filter what is important and what is not and help you navigate the info-storm, but...you need get used to the fact that for some time to come a lot of things just aren't going to make sense to you that you really feel you should have a good grasp on. It's OK. Don't panic.
Do avoid as much as possible the gazillions of meetings you'll be invited to...people love to meet the new peeps and influence early...and that's ok to a degree, but be very selective about the meetings you accept and don't be afraid to turn a lot of them down. For those you do accept, insist on understanding clear goals up-front before hitting "Accept". Failing on good filtering here means less time on the things you absolutely should be focusing on in the first few weeks (e.g. the right water).
2. Don't try to figure it all out yourself
Large companies cannot avoid process. And along with process goes the array of tools/apps you need navigate and use to get stuff done. Self-help is fine (praise the Google intranet search appliance!!) but at some point the effort to find out and learn for yourself (due to lack of obviousness) reaches the point of diminishing returns, fast. So save your sanity, swallow your pride, and ask a peer or your manager or your HR bod for the right pointers. You don't know what you don't know and that's OK.
3. Your first impressions count, so Ask Those Dumb Questions!
Help break Groupthink. This is applicable when joining almost all new companies and teams, but this point is maybe even more pertinent in a large company and large teams. The wikipedia definition article is a great description of what I mean here:
"Groupthink is a type of thought exhibited by group members who try to minimize conflict and reach consensus without critically testing, analyzing, and evaluating ideas. Individual creativity, uniqueness, and independent thinking are lost in the pursuit of group cohesiveness, as are the advantages of reasonable balance in choice and thought that might normally be obtained by making decisions as a group. During groupthink, members of the group avoid promoting viewpoints outside the comfort zone of consensus thinking."
Being new to team, your first impressions are critical and are likely to be "right" more often than not. If something doesn't make sense to you, then do as children do so naturally, and ask "why?"...it can be an incredibly powerful word.
4. Get down and dirty, fast. Identify and pick the high impact and low hanging fruit
The essence of this tip is not to lose the small company / start-up fire.
Effective teams and individuals at large companies often suffer from the analysis paralysis syndrome that can be caused by working in complex environments. Complexity and big companies go together (like Wallace and Gromit), so it can become too easy to a) fall into the trap of overly accounting for all the long term implications of short term action to immediate problems, and b) thinking that the current "way" of getting things done presents too many obstacles to getting those short-term things done that have high-impact. If you at are least aware of these two potential traps, you are less likely to fall down the traps and therefore more likely to achieve early wins. And early wins does wonders for your own self-confidence (countering "Imposter Syndrome").
The second point on this one is to make sure you create opportunities for you to get your hands dirty and therefore really understand the issues you are being paid to become an expert and lead on, as well as getting to grips with the practical mechanics of how to get things done at your new working home. I'm sure different folks may have a different point of view on this one but I've always found that some good old fashioned "DIY" under the belt makes one a better architect.
In the context of showing up as the new manager of a team, I received two bits of very useful advice provided by one of my mentors: 1. Find out where the high priority pressure is within your existing team, then take some this work on yourself and off their plate. They will appreciate your help and speeds up your own ramping up on how to get things done...and 2. When doing this, don't take on the high profile / star-status stuff, let them keep that - you should take on the grunge / unglamorous tasks.
5. Read and understand the last annual report
It sounds obvious (and really should be done as part of the process when prepp'ing for interviews), but the content of an annual report is an absolute treasure trove in speeding up your understanding of the nature and operations of the company and your place in it: overall performance; cash-cows; strategies; priorities; risks; relevant markets; trends and a whole bunch of other stuff that could take years to try and find out through sheer "organic" means.
6. Research and use the benefits
Most large companies (especially in the tech sector) usually have a some great employee benefits (Intuit is amongst the leaders here). Learn about them, use them and don't feel guilty in doing so!
7. Find a Mentor
Find a mentor (and I don't mean your manager). Find someone who has a few years under their belt at the company (and ideally not too close to your own team in terms of the company org) who can advise you on how to navigate the wilderness, give your a historical perspective on why things are the way they are, tell you about some of the characters you'll be dealing with and give you objective advice generally.
There you have it. Just my 2 cents here. I'm sure many of the above tips / lessons are likely to be applicable when joining a new company of any size, but these are the ones that came to mind for me.
What do you think? Have you got tips to share with others? I'd love to hear other ideas and learnings on this topic.
Thursday, February 12, 2009
I think 'NO'
I will tell you about SANA in simple 3 step.
1. Create a Buzz to start your own business.
2. Participate in SMO activity.
3. Be a part of cultural activity online.
Meet SANA on 11th August 2009 in your city.
Express yourself to meet SANA.